From Performance to Presence
While earning my Master’s Degree, one of the most meaningful leadership topics discussed wasn’t just about performance, it was about presence. The kind of presence that shows up with emotional intelligence, clarity, and adaptability.
The Platinum Rule in Practice
In “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” Dale Carnegie reframes the Golden Rule into something even more powerful, the Platinum Rule. Treat others how they wish to be treated. That nuance matters. It’s not about projecting your preferences onto others but understanding theirs. That lesson has lived far beyond the classroom for me. I’ve seen how applying that principle can reshape teams, build trust, and unlock better outcomes across every level of an organization.
Versatility with Boundaries
Great leadership requires versatility, the ability to shift tone, delivery, and approach to truly connect. But it also demands discernment. Without healthy boundaries, versatility turns into emotional overextension and eventually, burnout.
Whether it’s how you deliver feedback, read a room, or adjust your communication style based on who is at the other side of the table, it all ties back to one thing. You must know yourself to better serve others.
Emotional Intelligence in Action
That’s where emotional intelligence comes in. Noticing when someone is “off” before they say it, knowing when to push and pause, adjusting your delivery without diluting your message, and being flexible without becoming formless.
Whether you’re giving feedback, rallying a team, or navigating a challenging conversation, your ability to meet the audience where they are at, both mentally and emotionally, makes all the difference.
Leadership That Resonates
This is the integration of what I’ve learned in theory and seen in practice:
- Flexibility without self-sacrifice: You can adapt without abandoning yourself.
- Empathy with edges: Caring doesn’t mean caving.
- Influence grounded in authenticity: Real impact comes when people trust your skill and you as an individual.
The best leaders don’t morph into what people want them to be. They meet others where they are without abandoning their true self.
That’s the kind of presence I strive for every day. And that’s the type of leadership I believe changes everything.
Your Turn
What’s one way you’ve learned to lead with both empathy and boundaries?
Drop it in the comments. I’d love to learn from your experience!